Going to weddings, getting new clothes made, eating fancy food, fighting with the groom’s side and stealing the groom’s shoes, are some of the things we love doing at weddings, right? But there are some things which we just don’t like about Indian weddings. Here are 8 things I hate about Indian Weddings.
Exorbitant Wedding Expenses
Do you know how much an Indian wedding costs? People very casually spend 20 lakhs to even 5 crores on weddings. And in that too the bride’s family has to bear the maximum share of the total spending. Why? Just because they gave birth to a girl? Don’t you think it’s unfair? And don’t you think it would be a better option if both the families take equal responsibilities?
How can we forget the constant gaze that we get for wearing our favourite (sleeveless which can be easily translated to characterless by the society) blouse? I really don’t get how the length of my sleeves affects others. Why are they so bothered? I mean, it’s my choice right, for whatever kind of blouse I want to wear, whether it’s low cut, high cut, sleeveless or backless. How can the marriage be complete without uncle and aunties staring at us for not being so “sanskaari“?
The Question of the Millennium (I mean, Marriage)
One of the most common questions asked at weddings is “Beta when is your turn meaning when are you marrying?” or “Now you are only next in line”. I mean, I have come to attend the wedding, not do my own wedding planning, why are you spoiling the whole mood?. My simple question is – why are you so concerned about my marriage? My parents are there to remind me of getting married, every now and then. We have umpteen other things to worry about. Life is much more than just getting married and having children.
Judging Everyone’s Makeup
If someone doesn’t come with makeup on, then there is a problem and they say, “Look she just woke up and came just like that”. And if someone has done makeup, then also there is a problem and they say, “Look how much makeup she is wearing”. They don’t even leave the brides alone. It’s her day, her wedding, at least leave her alone. Honestly it doesn’t even matter because everything is a problem for them. So stop thinking about them and do what you want to do.
And then arrive some pathetic wedding rituals like Tilak, Kanyadaan and so many more such conservative customs which apparently constitute our rich culture. But if you try to sit and understand the meaning of them, it all seems so patriarchal. What a paradox! And it’s obvious for us to ask – Are these rituals going to become the foundation of my marriage? Well, certainly not mine.
And in the end there is this Bidai Ceremony. How seriously should we take it? During the Bidai, the girl keeps on crying, her parents keep on crying. Bidai doesn’t mean permanent departure from your home. Yeah I agree that we have been taught since our childhood that “Ladkiyaan toh paraya dhan hoti hai”, but no. It was her home, it is her home and it will always be her home.
Fix you Veil (Pallu Theek Karo)
And then the bride is constantly being asked to fix her veil. I mean if she is performing the rituals or dancing, then it’s common for the veil to fall out of place right? Why don’t you fix your mindset? What if she doesn’t feel like wearing the veil? There are so many hairstyles in the market. What if she want to go for a high bun along with her lehenga?
Dowry – the Biggest Blot on Indian Weddings
And why don’t people talk about dowry? It is still rampant. It is still happening everywhere. If we think about it, then it is a burden on the family of the bride only. It is something which is not acceptable at all. Because in a lot of cases, dowry leads to crime against women, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse and even dowry deaths in many marriages. So it must stop.
So please, stop doing these 8 things and let us enjoy weddings.