Simmer Dating: Is GenZ Going Back To Slow Romance Over Quick Right Swipes?

Wake up! A new Gen Z dating trend has just dropped. Simmer Dating encourages individuals to slow down and truly savour the process of building a relationship. In today’s fast-paced world, relationships are often rushed, with societal and social media pressures urging people to define their relationship status quickly.

Simmer Dating takes a different approach. From sending the first text to engaging in deep conversations, this style of dating advocates for slow and steady progress. Spending quality time with a partner before taking significant steps fosters understanding and trust. By nurturing the relationship gradually and discussing future aspirations at a comfortable pace, couples can build a deeper and more meaningful rapport.

Return Of An Old Trend?

While "simmer dating" may be new, its essence has long been a part of Indian culture. Many of our parents or those who married in the 90s inherently followed this trend, especially in arranged marriage setups. Back then, couples often entered marriage with little knowledge of each other’s preferences. It was through small gestures, cues, and interactions after marriage that they built a lifelong bond.

We often wonder why relationships from that era seemed to last so long. Beyond the element of compromise, these relationships weren’t built on unrealistic expectations. Couples would meet briefly, marry quickly, and grow into their partnership over time—forming a connection rooted in gradual understanding and mutual respect.

Modern-day relationships often seem to focus heavily on materialistic aspects. From the size of the diamond ring to the grandeur of the wedding, love, and mutual affection are frequently measured by extravagant gestures. The number of international trips taken together or the money spent on celebrating each other seems to amplify the perceived strength of a relationship.

But doesn’t this approach miss the essence of what relationships are truly about? At their core, relationships are about embracing each other’s highs and lows, standing by one another through challenges, and cherishing the simple, meaningful moments that money can’t buy.

Simmer Dating mirrors this age-old pattern. Marriage or not, the core idea remains the same: taking the time to learn about each other while being together. It’s about truly enjoying the process of being in love, without the pressure of rushing for social affirmations. 

Is getting emotionally drained normal?

While taking time to explore each other in a relationship has its benefits, it also comes with challenges, including the risk of emotional strain. Overthinking about the future or constantly analyzing the relationship can disrupt the natural flow and harm the process.

To counter this, active communication and openness are essential. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your significant other can bridge potential gaps, fostering a stronger connection. This transparency ensures that the relationship remains fulfilling and aligned with mutual goals. 

Views expressed by the author are their own.