Indian women and Marriage
To have one’s own social life and a reliable friend circle gives a sense of freedom, support and ownership in life. And women deserve it all.
This argument that Indian parents give is not exclusive to professional dreams and life goals. They take the liberty, and creativity, to apply it to every single thing – from deciding what clothes to wear to taking a holiday or going on a trip.
That a woman can wish for something other than a good marriage is still a hard idea for this society to digest.
My rightful place is at home with the parents I was born to, my uterus belongs to me so I can leave it empty for as long as I like.
Us women are conditioned to internalise the blame for anything that goes wrong, even if it affects our own well being, and that needs to change.
Why should I be forced to adjust in a marriage if I can live a healthy, complete and happy life on my own?
It is 2020, why must we still applaud a husband who says ‘love you dear’ to a wife who polishes their shoes, or hands him his wallet, keys and laptop? Isn’t he supposed to help out with the chores ?
It is high time that we accept that women can aim at and excel in any career options and that she doesn’t need the validation from the patriarchy whether or not she is on the right path.
How many of us can wrap our heads around the fact that our moms may also have desires, sexual, emotional or otherwise? That they may be going unfulfilled in their marriage?
Being single isn’t bad, what makes it unbearable in fact is the resulting social pressure. If given a choice most women and even men would rather not married until they felt absolutely up to the task.
It is about time that we discussed how in most Indian households, the duty of tending to elders falls chiefly on daughters-in-laws.
Why must a woman change herself to fit in after marriage? Why is something as spontaneous and ordinary as laughter prone to stigmatisation for women in our country?