The Disadvantage Of Always Trying to Feel Good

Always focusing on the good & positive outcomes in life is a very toxic way of living. Trying to achieve a positive outcome or focusing on good vibes can lead to extreme disappointment  & cause many mental health struggles. Life should not be lived in imagination. 

Always thinking & wanting to be somewhere else and imagining somebody’s life as ideal is not the best way of living. The worst thing you can give yourself in this life is a giant what if.

Our relationship with ourselves is built on our courage to move past our comfort.

Life isn’t always good for sure. 

Our relationships, our work, our health cannot always be good nor can we always think & feel positive about it. Conflict, tension, stress, comparison, and dissatisfaction are all parts of life as natural as good & happy times. The problem with focusing only on positivity is that it creates a false narrative of life. 

It makes us feel that negative emotions are “bad” and should not exist in our lives.

Bad emotions if paid attention to are always our teacher. Anger, frustration, and sadness aren’t bad. They are signs that you need to pay attention to something inside you.

When you try to sideline them, you make the mistake of causing bigger problems later only focusing on good vibes. Always focusing on making everything right is a pathway to damaging yourself & your life.

Every problem that you ignore results in a build-up over time, simmering in your heart & mind which will explode in time just like a pressure cooker. 

Life is built on resilience, when we face difficulty we come out stronger on the other side. The first thing you can do is to change your mindset around negativity in your life. 

Problems don’t mean you are failing, they are an opportunity for growth, it means you need to start working on difficulties in your life. If something is tough you must learn to ask for help & share your burden. Having someone around you, who guides you with accountability is the best way to lighten your load yet face the difficulty. 

When someone offers advice in a difficult situation, listen to understand, not just to respond or react. This approach helps you see different perspectives, enabling you to make the right decision without fixating on the outcome. Stop blaming others—or yourself—for the results. Instead, embrace reality as it is. The next time you focus solely on positivity, ask yourself: What am I really avoiding? When faced with hardship, lean into the discomfort, knowing that true growth happens through adversity.

Authored by Divya Mohindroo, Counselling Psychologist and Founder of Embrace Imperfections.  Views expressed by the author are their own.