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Five Things Men Love In Bed: From A Clinical Sexologist

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Sexy lingerie? Dirty talk? Or some new position? What do men actually like in bed? That’s a question most women wonder about in an attempt to please their partners sexually. We talked to a clinical sexologist and here’s what she has to say.

Tried out sexy lingerie or attempted a new position still nothing seems to satisfy him in bed? In an attempt to please their male partners sexually, women try a lot of things that may or may not work. We had a conversation with Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a relationship counsellor and clinical sexologist, asking what men love in bed and she recommended us a few tips.

Here are five things men love in bed:

  1. Gentleness is the key

First thing mentioned by Dr. Lee is the sensitivity of a penis when it is not erect. The Clinical Sexologist recommends being gentle with the male member and focussing on the arousal as build up is as essential for a man as it is for a woman.

  1. Constant rhythm

Dr Martha Lee says once the penis is erect, it needs to have a constant rhythm for the man to go over the edge. Too much variations and movements can be distracting and can meddle with the build up for a man so try to keep a consistent pace of stimulation so that your partner can have better sensational feelings.

  1. Having fun yourself

According to Dr. Lee, sex shouldn’t be seen as a duty or a chore neither should one consider themselves as a mere “giver”. There are men who love to give as much as they receive and enjoy it more when their partners are also receiving an equal amount of pleasure. It gives them pleasure that you’re not doing it unwillingly but it’s a mutual thing with mutual satisfaction. “People get happy with seeing other people happy.” That’s them, says the expert.

  1. Closeness and intimacy

The era of “Wham! Bam! Thank you, ma’am!” is over. We have more conscious men now who crave closeness and intimacy when it comes to sex. Don’t underestimation the importance of closeness and intimacy as they provide a safe space for men to be vulnerable as they let their guard down.

  1. Everyone is different

All the tips mentioned above are general observations made by Dr. Lee and may or not may not apply to your partner. Not all men may love cuddling or women having pleasure as everyone has different preferences in bed.

Anyhow, it can be a good conversation starter with your partner to know what they may like or dislike in bed to know the differences between you two in a better way and come to terms with what is relevant for you to try in your sexual life.