How many times have you been told “kaichi ki tarah zubaan chalti hai tumhari”? I always wonder what exactly this expression hints at? After brainstorming for days at length, I reached the conclusion that it simply means the society finds it hard to accept opinionated women. Every time you try to raise your voice against an ill practice, you are silenced. Your “kaichi jaisi zubaan” becomes too tough for the society to handle.
Why are opinionated women thought to be difficult?
This question often crosses my mind: “Why is it that only opinionated women are thought to be difficult but never opinionated men?” I might be wrong but I believe men’s choices are always given a preference but the same does not happen with a woman. Why should the only reason behind accepting a man’s decision be “wo mard hai na“?
Expecting men to be decision makers and women their silent followers is not only ridiculous but also disrespectful. And then setting the same filters or expectations for women, even more so.
We have just as much right as men to voice our opinion but we are taught to simply obey whatever is told to us. Else, we are easily thought of as being ‘stubborn’. Having a say in matters that concern you is necessary. If this makes you stubborn, it’s absolutely okay. So here are some difficult women quotes that promise to inspire you to stay opinionated.
Words of opinionated women
- “A man told me that for a woman, I was very opinionated. I said, ‘For a man you’re kind of ignorant'”-Anne Hathaway
“When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious.”- Sheryl Sandberg
“We Realize The Importance of Our Voices Only When We Are Silenced.”- Malala Yousafzai
“I wouldn’t call women victims, I would call them survivors. But there shouldn’t be a world where women have to survive, there should be a world where women thrive.”- Priyanka Chopra Jonas
“Either I choose to behave or live a life of someone else, or I choose to be myself and live the life the way I want.”- Taapsee Pannu
- “The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognising how we are.”- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“I am trying to be a girl who is real and has an opinion. Might say stupid things but not scared of men, and for me that’s important.”- Sonam Kapoor Ahuja
- “Society gets uncomfortable with opinionated, self-made women who have something to say. Or something very uncomfortable to say.”- Richa Chadha
“I’m not out burning bras, but I’m very opinionated about women owning their power.”- Katherine Heigl
“I’m one of those women who’s not to be messed with. I’m very opinionated and boisterous at times. I’m also kind and humble. I know when to fold and when to hold and that’s important. If my edge scares you, then you have a choice to remove yourself.”- LisaRaye McCoy Misick
Dear society, accept a woman for who she is and remember, she has every right to defy the norms you have set for her. Though you want her to be a mere puppet in your hands, she will and should have an opinion of her own. Being a woman brought up by parents who have always taught me to live a life free from conditions, I strongly believe, every woman must stand up for herself whenever the situation demands and in no way it makes her a ‘difficult woman’.