Vandana Katoch, mother of a teen who was diagnosed with depression recently, celebrated her son’s score in the Class X board exams through a message posted on Facebook, and it is now creating a buzz for all the right reasons. Katoch’s son, despite struggling with Maths, Science and Hindi, has done well in the exam by scoring 60% and the mother couldn’t be more proud. “This is just to tell my kid Mama’s super proud, considering where you were in January. He pushed himself against himself to be here,” she says, The Hindu reported.
Katoch congratulated her son and gave him one major advice for life – that marks don’t affect a person or his life. “I’ve seen enough of life to know that.”
The post has garnered about 724 comments till now and over 2,600 people have shared it.
The proud mom posted “Super proud of my boy who scored a 60% in Class 10 board exams. Yes, it is not a 90, but that doesn’t change how I feel. Simply, because I have seen him struggle with certain subjects almost to the point of giving up, and then deciding to give his all in the last month-and-a-half to finally make it through! Here’s to you, Aamer. And others like you – fishes asked to climb trees. Chart your own course in the big, wide ocean, my love. And keep your innate goodness, curiosity and wisdom alive. And of course, your wicked sense of humour!”
Vandana lives in Delhi, is the founder of the Clayground Communications. She lifted up her disappointed son, after he got his marks in school, reminding him that examination culture in India could be toxic and why it shouldn’t bother him much. She said, “I had to remind him about the mountain he’d just climbed, and that he shouldn’t compare. Everybody’s journey is different.”
Naturally, moms online have applauded her for the positive reinforcement.
One user wrote, “The real competition is with our own self. We need to work on our self and get better than what we were yesterday. Figure out where lies our joy and pursue the same. It’s easier said than done, requires a lot of courage and focus with the tyrant called mind around always trying to take you outwards. Hats off to your courage and approach!! Reminds me of what Einstein said ‘Every one is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.’”
One message read, “You are a breath of fresh air to most parents cringing under the pressure to create a perfect child.” There were of course those who did not agree, with another message saying: “That is not good parenting…”
Another mother wrote, “An eye opening post for all those who go behind marks. Really good to see that there r people like u in India where everyone is crazy about marks. As parents even we told our daughter who appeared her 10th through open schooling system that try according to ur level we dont want u to score above 90. As you said appreciate those who scored 50-60 and of course congratulations to ur son.”
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