Gone are the days when brides and their families are going to shut their mouths, put their heads down, and wait for the groom and his gang to stop dancing and let the ceremonies proceed as scheduled. Thankfully so. Nowadays, women are speaking their minds and letting the groom or his family members know clearly of things that cross the line of tolerance.
In a recent example of this, a woman in Bengaluru allegedly called off her daughter's wedding after the groom and his friends turned up late and drunk at the venue. The groom caused a ruckus and behaved inappropriately at the mandap. According to reports, he even "threw" the aarti ki thali as a joke, which became the final straw for the bride's family.
In a video that is being widely shared on social media, the bride's mother can be seen sternly refusing to let her daughter marry the inebriated groom. She also seems to imitate the groom's improper actions, emphasising her disapproval and making it clear why the wedding could not proceed." She rhetorically asks in Hindi, "If this is the behaviour before marriage, what is my daughter's future going to be like?"
Similar Incident: Bride Marries Another Man After Groom Arrives Drunk
In a similar woman from 2022, a bride allegedly got married to another man after her groom turned up intoxicated. The incident happened in Rajasthan's Churu district when a groom continued his drunken dancing with friends at the baraat, the bride refused to marry him.
India Today reported that the groom, whose name is Sunil, had arrived with his family at the bride's village on May 15, 2022. However, the procession did not arrive on time despite having left the place at 9 p.m. for the bride's house. Not only did this delay cause inconvenience to the bride and her family, but it also meddled with the mahurat, the holy time given by the priest for the wedding pheras to take place.
The antics of the groom and his family did not sit well with the bride and her family as they decided to ditch the groom. After this, the bride was married to another person. But the fiasco does not end here, for the groom's family decided to register a complaint against the bride's family at the Rajgarh police station. Both families, reportedly, cited family matters as the reason leading to the cancellation of the wedding. They even submitted written proof to the investigating officer.
When Women Finally Speak Up
As wedding season begins in India, so does the influx of bizarre stories. However, grooms turning up drunk at their weddings is not just bizarre but also speaks loudly about the kind of privilege that men hold. The amount of confidence that they have in the fact that being the groom protects them from any embarrassment and gives them access to harass other people. It's a fine thing that the brides are taking up these initial signs of toxicity seriously and denying being complacent to their antics.
In the recent Bengaluru incident, it is particularly refreshing to see a woman from the bride's family standing up for her daughter. Such actions challenge societal norms that often pressure women to remain silent in the face of inappropriate behaviour, especially during pivotal events like weddings. While women and their families often bowed down to the groom's side in the olden days, incidents of families asserting their daughters' rights today show a shift towards asserting dignity over patriarchal pressures.
Views expressed by the author are their own.
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