We all yearn for companionship and often this longing can lead us to settle for an unhealthy relationship. Toxic relationships can have disastrous consequences for you, whether they are with your friends, colleagues, cousins or your partner. Sometimes it’s too late to judge the intentions of a person and we keep investing our energy in them. Backstabbing, betrayals, hypocrisy, unrequited efforts and unsolicited judgments, and a tendency to be controlling are all a telltale signs of a toxic relationship. Is it really difficult to cut out toxic people from our lives? You may battle guilt when you do so, but it’s never too late to distance yourself from toxic connections. The hurt that you may feel while severing toxic ties is nothing compared to the trauma and regret that you may harbour if you continue with such relationships.
Here’s how toxic relationships affect a person and why they must move on:
Toxic relationships are emotionally draining. When you keeping giving and giving to a relationship, it depletes you. Even after breaking out from a toxic relationship the person remains emotionally shattered for a certain period of time. He/she keeps on reminiscing the memories and good times they had spent with that person. However, the vacuum created by that particular person’s absence is transient as you will meet new people on whom you can rely. Share your feelings with your family or other friends to relieve your emotional baggage.
Is it really difficult to cut out toxic people from our lives? You may battle guilt when you do so, but it’s never too late to distance yourself from toxic connections.
Disturbs mental peace
It is often believed that our actions directly affect our mental peace. A toxic relationship impairs the mental well- being of a person. Even when you realise the issue and walk away, you may lose your confidence. Will this happen to me again? What did I do to deserve such a treatment? But you must understand that recognising that you are in a toxic relationship and then stepping away from it is a healthy thing to do. It is the first step towards healing.
Trust issues with people
After stepping out of a toxic relationship one often struggles to trust people again. What if this happens to me again? The pain, agony, and humiliation of past become so familiar that it leaves one dubious. However, your past should act as a lesson for you and your emotions should never supersede your rational.
After breaking off a toxic relationship we tend to internalise the blame. Why was I so subservient to his/her demands? Why did I trust him/her so blindly?
Internalising of blame
The success or failure of any relationship depends on the individuals involved in it. After breaking off a toxic relationship we tend to internalise the blame. Why was I so subservient to his/her demands? Why did I trust him/her so blindly? All these questions will keep revolving in your head. But don’t feel guilty about your decision. There is more to life and every decision brings a lesson to you.
Life is a lesson
At every step, life teaches us a lesson. Instead of getting demotivated one should also look at the positive side of each decision. Your experience trains you to choose your company wisely in future. Don’t ever waste your energy on negative people and never provide them with a second chance to hurt you. Never compromise with your values to please people around you. You have to remember that your first obligation, it towards your own well-being and happiness.
Divya Rawat is an intern with SheThePeople.TV.