How The Elderly Anchor Our Festive Frenzy With Devotion, Stories, And Love

Navratri, the nine-night festival honouring Goddess Mata Rani, transforms Indian homes into havens of joy and devotion. Rooted in this vibrant culture, I cherish this sacred season when every new venture, a purchase, a wedding, or a simple celebration, is timed to align with Navratri’s auspicious days.

For our elders, Navratri is more than a festival; it’s a season of renewed purpose and connection. They rise early for prayers, their voices rich with faith, and gather at kirtan circles, where devotional hymns weave bonds of love and community. This vibrant energy unites generations: mothers, daughters-in-law, grandmothers, and young children sway to the dholak’s rhythm as the manjira’s clang lifts every heart.

In this sacred haven, differences dissolve, and the lively chahal-pahal (bustle) fills the soul with joy. For those hours, life’s burdens fade, replaced by shared laughter and love.

Lessons from the elderly

I feel blessed to live in a country where festivals like Navratri, Diwali, Holi, and Raksha Bandhan are more than celebrations; they’re lifelines. These traditions give elders a rhythm to live by and a reason to gather, whether they’re leading prayers or sharing stories with wide-eyed grandchildren.

Studies affirm that such cultural participation boosts well-being, fostering deeper community ties and emotional fulfilment. Yet, in stark contrast, many elders in Western countries face profound isolation, disconnected from such vibrant traditions.

Even in metropolitan cities, the number of isolated elders is growing exponentially. The rapid shift to nuclear families is loosening the ties that once anchored elders in our lives.

It’s on younger generations to guide them toward passions like painting, photography, community volunteering, or mentoring children in music and dance to keep their spirits alive.

Involving the elderly in our festivities

I’ve learned that keeping elders engaged is the key to their happiness, a lesson rooted in my family’s experience. My parents, in their 70s, embody the spirit of living fully. My father, an Urdu poet, still heads to his office and delights in morning chai pe charcha with park-walking friends, his published books a testament to a mind that dances with creativity. 

My mother, equally passionate, manages our kitchen, supervises the home staff, and oversees home decor projects with enthusiasm.

This spirit of engagement extends beyond my family to our community. Our neighbour, Raj Kamal Aunty, runs “Aunty’s Kitchen,” serving ghar ka khana that feels like a hug on a plate, cherished by all. After her husband’s passing, catering for house parties has given her renewed purpose.

Similarly, Gopi Aunty, in her 70s, teaches Bharatanatyam to children; her dance classes are a source of joy and financial independence. 

These elders don’t merely pass time; they thrive, contributing to society and finding purpose in their days. Studies confirm that cultural engagement enhances health and well-being for middle-aged and older adults alike.

Festivals like Navratri are anchors of love, keeping elders tethered to family and community. They’re never left adrift, always needed, whether leading a puja or guiding rituals. 

This season, bring your elders home to share in the joy. I dream of a world where every senior, everywhere, finds such anchors: community kitchens to share recipes and stories, art classes to pass down traditions, or mentorship programs to light the way for the next generation. 

Happy elders create joyful homes, and joyful homes build thriving communities. Let’s weave this wisdom into every corner of the world, ensuring no heart feels alone.

Authored by Radhika Dhingra | Views expressed by the author are their own.