Watch: In This Tribe's Matrilineal Marriage Tradition, Groom Moves To Bride's Home

In the Khasi and Garo tribes of the Northeastern regions like Meghalaya, marriage customs reflect the matrilineal structure of their society. The foundation of the Khasi society is based on the concept of Kur and Kha. Ka Tipkur ka Tipkha is a respectful recognition of the basic social structure, which consists of either maternal or paternal relationships. All those who are descendants of the same ancestral mother belong to the same Kur or clan and members of the father’s clan are not Kur but Kha. It enjoins all to know and

In the Khasi and Garo tribes of the Northeastern regions like Meghalaya, marriage customs reflect the matrilineal structure of their society. The foundation of the Khasi society is based on the concept of Kur and Kha. Ka Tipkur ka Tipkha is a respectful recognition of the basic social structure, which consists of either maternal or paternal relationships. All those who are descendants of the same ancestral mother belong to the same Kur or clan and members of the father’s clan are not Kur but Kha. It enjoins all to know and respect each other, to recognize one’s relation on both sides and to give due regard to them. 

'Women-Women Everywhere'- where they should be 

In these tribes, the groom moves into the bride’s home after marriage, honouring the tradition where women hold significant power and respect. Children take their mother's clan name, and wealth and property are passed down to the youngest daughter. 

This matrilineal system grants women a prominent role, allowing them to be the sole custodians of family assets and be decisive decision-makers in society. The birth of a girl child is uniquely celebrated, reinforcing the respect and importance given to women in both urban and rural communities.

The wedding customs are equally unique, where the groom gifts part of the bride's wedding attire and jewellery. The bride wears a distinctive crown, often made of gold or silver, with a peak at the back, symbolising her important status. Marriage within the same clan is strictly forbidden, with excommunication as a consequence for those who disobey.

Uniquely Bound Wedding Customs of Khasi's

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Traditionally, marriages were arranged, though modern influences have brought love marriages into practice. Despite this, a deep-rooted respect for the traditions remains, with maternal uncles playing crucial roles as marriage negotiators during the ceremony. Divorce, though discouraged, is permitted if certain conditions are met, such as the absence of children. However, to finalise a divorce, both sides must agree and involve the same spokespersons who witnessed the marriage.

A Khasi marriage is seen as essential and as pivotal to life as it can be in order to further expand the clan. In cases where a couple remains childless, separation is allowed, and neither spouse can remarry until an official divorce is granted. The strong adherence to these customs reinforces the sacredness of marriage and the important role women play in maintaining family and societal structures.