What Is the Raja Beta Syndrome? 5 Signs To Watch

The Raja Beta Syndrome in simple words is an Indian mother's inability to see anything wrong with their sons. Some mothers believe that their son is so immaculate and innocent that even if they do something wrong, it must have been an action taken under other bad peoples' influence. This kind of motherly affection is hardly extended towards daughters. And honestly, we don't need it.

This act of spoiling Indian men is often advocated as 'motherly love' by many. What is the point of this love if it eventually turns men into monsters? with their mothers siding them on anything and everything the sense of entitlement finds larger spaces in their minds and they are led to believe that their behaviour is absolutely alright and it is the others who need regulating. The amount of damage this brings to women either related or even associated with such men is unredeemable. Here are 5 signs to look for in mothers suffering from this annoying syndrome:

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Pestering daughters-in-law to take care of their son

Many mothers express disapproval towards their daughter-in-law because they think that their son is not taken care of them by them. However they hardly ever show concern if their son is taking care of his wife. It is often considered by mothers that their son's wife will take over the responsibility of pampering and spoiling their son as if that's what she is supposed to do. Dear mothers, your Raja Beta is not a child anymore. Moreover, as partners, he and his wife are supposed to equally care for each other.

"Kuch soch ke hi kiya hoga "

No matter what he does, a mother always finds a way to justify his actions. That is how most mothers raise their sons in India. Did he beat someone up? Must be the other person's fault. Did he molest a girl? the girl must be asking for it. Did beat his wife? she must be misbehaving. It is hard to believe how some women can have the heart to say such things when they themselves have gone through the same.

"He won't be able to handle kitchen work"

Most households have women occupying the kitchens while men chill on the sofa waiting for food to get served. If this patriarchal practice is helping men stay away from household responsibilities, it also because their mothers have enabled them. What is so delicate about Indian men that they are not taught about cooking and cleaning by their mothers while the daughters are heavily schooled about 'being responsible' right from the beginning?

Asking female partners to be responsible for men's actions

When it was revealed that the late actor Sushant Singh Rajput used to consume drugs, many attacked his girlfriend Rhea Chakraborty for not stopping making him take drugs. Some even asked why Rhea didn't stop Sushant. First of all, Sushant Singh Rajput was a grown man who was able to make his own decisions and blaming his girlfriend for those doesn't make sense. Secondly, why do people try to find fault in women just to make the men look good?

"He is too naive to choose his own bride"

Yes of course because women are such cunning frauds, right? Mothers sometimes forget that they are also women and it is they who should educate their sons about how to treat and perceive other women. While constantly 'warning' their sons about 'forward' and 'cunning' women, mothers forget to teach men how women deserve their respect. This also harms men as they cannot make up their own minds and marry the woman they like since their mothers are so controlling about such things.

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