Indian society still loves to look down upon single women, well past their “marriageable” age, with pity. No matter how successful she might be a woman is somehow inferior, when compared to others in her age bracket, if she remains unmarried. A Neurosurgeon recently shared on social media how a guy that she had rejected seven years ago slid into her DMs to shame her for her single status, bragging about having a “beautiful wife”.
When she didn’t reply to his texts, he remarked, “same attitude huh”. It is amusing how despite bragging that he now has a “beautiful wife” this man is insecure enough to contact a woman who rejected him ages ago and annoy her. The neurosurgeon certainly dodged a bullet with this one, and the Internet thought the same as many people went on to congratulate her, telling her she did the right thing by rejecting the guy.
When will men learn to handle rejection?
Such guys then start the cycle of shaming such women to validate themselves. You have an attitude problem. Oh, she is a slut. That woman, my god she is so high-maintenance. She rejected me? Let me see how she finds someone else to love or marry.
Single woman shamed by guy she rejected: how male entitlement works
The fault lies with Indian families and society that always view women in terms of their relationship with men. It also bestows men with a sense of entitlement which conditions them to believe that they are the best person in the world and that they deserve every woman they lay their eyes on.
Such men are never conditioned to introspect, or see their own faults, instead they are pacified by the society and their families, who tell them that the girl who rejected them was simply not good enough. “You’ll get someone better”. Which is why, this man went on to brag about having a beautiful wife, in a bid to make the neurosurgeon feel inferior.
Still Single? Why Do You Care?
But this is not the 80s where a woman was worthless without sindoor on her forehead. Numerous single women today live on their own terms, excelling in careers of their choice and finding a meaning to their lives, but not on the terms set by society. These women may find suitable partners in future, or maybe they will stay single life long, what is important is that marriage will be a choice for them and not a mandate.
So let single women be.
Views expressed are the author’s own.