Opinion

Seven Years After She Rejected Him, Guy Taunts Neurosurgeon About Her Single Status

When will Indian men learn to take rejection and master the idea of moving on?

Devanshi Batra

22 Jun 2022 00:00 IST

Updated On 22 Jun 2022 08:45 IST

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Indian society still loves to look down upon single women, well past their "marriageable" age, with pity. No matter how successful she might be a woman is somehow inferior, when compared to others in her age bracket, if she remains unmarried. A Neurosurgeon recently shared on social media how a guy that she had rejected seven years ago slid into her DMs to shame her for her single status, bragging about having a "beautiful wife".

When she didn't reply to his texts, he remarked, "same attitude huh". It is amusing how despite bragging that he now has a "beautiful wife" this man is insecure enough to contact a woman who rejected him ages ago and annoy her. The neurosurgeon certainly dodged a bullet with this one, and the Internet thought the same as many people went on to congratulate her, telling her she did the right thing by rejecting the guy.

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When will men learn to handle rejection?

Even after seven years, this man was still irked by the fact that a woman rejected him, and even refused to interact with him when he DMed her. This is a classic example of how Indian men still don't understand the concept of rejection. There are multiple reasons why a woman might reject a guy- there may be compatibility issues, she might looking for a different set of qualities in a life partner than what the match proposes to provide. Instead of taking it in their stride, men begin obsessing about being reject and end up harassing women who dared to say "no" to them.

Such guys then start the cycle of shaming such women to validate themselves. You have an attitude problem. Oh, she is a slut. That woman, my god she is so high-maintenance. She rejected me? Let me see how she finds someone else to love or marry.

Single woman shamed by guy she rejected: how male entitlement works

The fault lies with Indian families and society that always view women in terms of their relationship with men. It also bestows men with a sense of entitlement which conditions them to believe that they are the best person in the world and that they deserve every woman they lay their eyes on.

Such men are never conditioned to introspect, or see their own faults, instead they are pacified by the society and their families, who tell them that the girl who rejected them was simply not good enough. "You'll get someone better". Which is why, this man went on to brag about having a beautiful wife, in a bid to make the neurosurgeon feel inferior.

Still Single? Why Do You Care?

The guy considered himself to be on a higher pedestal than the woman who said "no" to him because of the fact that he is now married and she was still single. Men often think that if a woman is single then she is leading an incomplete life. She is seen as a disappointment to her family by the society because she hasn't done her basic gendered duties like cultivating her own family and bearing children.

But this is not the 80s where a woman was worthless without sindoor on her forehead. Numerous single women today live on their own terms, excelling in careers of their choice and finding a meaning to their lives, but not on the terms set by society. These women may find suitable partners in future, or maybe they will stay single life long, what is important is that marriage will be a choice for them and not a mandate.

So let single women be.

Views expressed are the author's own.

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