As we are about to ring in the new year, looking back at what we learnt and what we should unlearn is quite important. A new year might not bring any huge changes but making tiny changes and keeping up with those goals might make one feel better and have control over their life and the decisions they make.
Learning is a continuous process, from childhood to adulthood, we keep learning new stuff every day, a lot of which turns out to be really beneficial for us and our life. But not all of what we learn is good for us. Sometimes unknowingly we learn some rules or adapt to some behaviours that harm us in ways we are not able to see, therefore, there is a profound need for us to give up on some ideas as well. Here are 5 such ideas that I gave up on which changed my life for good.
5 Habits I Unlearned In 2022
1. Seeking validation from others
Everyone tries to seek validation fro m others at some other point in their life, most of the time just to get appraised by people to boost their confidence, and it is completely fine up to some extent, but the problem arises when we start to make our life decisions based on what people will think of it. Due to this, we start to lose our personality as well as the power to make decisions confidently. Giving up on the idea of seeking validation from others helped me in taking decisions which were for my betterment and had nothing to do with others. Which made me a step closer to focusing more on myself than on other people.
2. Stressing over being perfect in everything
As human beings, we tend to commit mistakes or make errors, but society makes us think otherwise as if committing mistakes is wrong, and that we need to be perfect. This faulty perception makes us have unrealistic expectations of ourselves, to achieve which we push ourselves more than we should, and it affects us both physically and mentally. Like everyone else, even I had the perception that I needed to be perfect in everything, which eventually affected my self-esteem. Ever since I stopped trying to be perfect, and learned to accept myself, my self-confidence was boosted and started feeling good about myself.
3. Trying to control everything in life
Most of us try to seek 100% control over what happens in our lives, but mostly we fail to do so, because life is really unpredictable. At such times we feel completely helpless because of not being able to control what is happening. After I stopped trying to control everything and started to accept situations, just as they were, my life became really sorted, as I didn't have to worry about having to handle everything.
4. Willing to be loved by everyone
Humans are social animals thus they want to be around people, who will love them and accept them. But we need to understand that every person has different emotional wants and needs, and who they like depends majorly on it. Thus, we cannot expect from everyone to like us, even though you might be the best person on this planet, there will be someone to criticise you. Accepting the fact and letting go of the idea that we can be loved by everyone helped me in accepting myself just as I am, and that I don't need to change for anyone but myself.
5. Prioritising giving time to others and not myself
People around us expect us to give them time and in most scenarios, we prioritise spending our time on them over spending some time with ourselves in peace. Ever since I started to prioritise giving time to myself other than investing it in people, I learned a lot of new things about myself and how I can love myself, and to think about how I want my life to be. All of this helped me in bringing out positive changes in my life.
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