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Just Because You Are Separated Doesn’t Mean That You Can’t Stay Friends

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Why do we still get to hear “You cannot be friends with your ex”? Can’t we start thinking differently now? Maybe you were in a loving relationship but eventually, you realise that the two of you are not meant to be together. There are also chances that you made the wrong choice right in the beginning. But it doesn’t have to mean that your relationship ends in a huge fight or you start loathing each other. Why are separations so toxic and difficult when they can be amicable and easy?

Separations in relationships and marriages are painful. Some of us take years to move on from a breakup. There are valid reasons behind it. We spend some of the most beautiful moments with that special someone and forgetting all of it is indeed difficult. Moving away breaks us down and gathering strength to keep going requires time. However, this never implies that you can’t be friends with the person you once loved.

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Randhir Kapoor opens up about his separation with Babita

Recently, actor Randhir Kapoor opened up about his separation with Babita. As per the News 18 report, he said, “She found that I was a terrible man who drank a lot and came home late, which was something she didn’t like. And I didn’t want to live the way she wanted, and she couldn’t accept me as I am, though it was a love marriage. So it’s okay. We had two lovely children to look after. She brought them up in the best way and they have excelled in their career. What else I could have asked for as a father?” These lines are wholesome and heartwarming. As a couple, they are no longer together yet they hold no hard feelings.

Randhir and Babita are still seen together and weddings and parties. Here’s what the actor said about his wife, “She’s a crucial part of my life. She has given me two lovely kids. We are all grown-up people, and we preferred to stay separately, (but) we are not enemies.” Though they don’t live under the same roof anymore, they haven’t filed a formal divorce and are comfortable with meeting occasionally.

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Hrithik Roshan and Sussanne Khan are an inspiring couple

Hrithik and Sussanne got married in the year 2000. They officially parted ways in 2014. But even the divorce couldn’t put a full stop to their friendship. On  November 25, 2018, Hrithik shared a post on his Instagram handle with a beautiful message. The caption read, “Here is Sussanne, my closest friend (also my ex wife)…you can want different things as people and stay undivided”. This is what he wanted to convey to his children.

 

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Marriages end but friendships don’t

You fell in love and got married to the person of your choice but the marriage didn’t last. That’s okay. Marriages don’t have to mean ‘living together till death do us part’ always. It’s a better option for some marriages to end. When two completely opposite people try to find solace in each other through marriage, they might fail. There will be differences, clashes, fights and disturbance. However, there’s a space beyond the husband-wife relationship. At times you can remain friends, if not partners.

Do you think it is possible to stay in good terms with your ex boyfriend or husband even after you are not officially together? Tell us. We would love to know.

Views expressed are author’s own

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