Yamini Pustake Bhalerao
Every time I experience a power cut, or lose internet connectivity, or have my work interrupted by a chore that cannot wait, I find myself asking, are we ready for working from home forever? Is this even good for our health?
While women may no longer be told to stick to kitchen duties in many homes, do they have the agency to put their self-respect first and wishes of others around them second?
Social media’s rule of thumb: If you do not endorse feminism in the virtual space, clearly you are not a feminist. Such an approach often renders us women oblivious to feminist men and their actions in real life.
Must a woman shut up on conversations around job security, finances and money, because society will focus more on her husband’s incapability to provide for her, instead of her capability to earn?
It is 2020, why must we still applaud a husband who says ‘love you dear’ to a wife who polishes their shoes, or hands him his wallet, keys and laptop? Isn’t he supposed to help out with the chores ?
Why married women in our society have to worry about social or familial repercussions for prioritising their parents?
Asking people to reach out to you, if they are facing mental health issues is a big responsibility. Are we all mentally equipped for such a responsibility?
For us, longevity and prosperity are the only parameters that define the success of a marriage. It doesn’t matter how a marriage lasted for thirty years, or fifty.
We could have made it a habit to be on a group call every week, if we wanted to. But why didn’t we? Why were we content chatting in the family group until a pandemic came along?
Why must a single woman’s lifestyle be anybody’s business? Why can’t she live her life as she wants? Must we constantly police her?
A “good Indian girl” appeases everyone in her line of sight, no matter what the cost. And not saying “no” is a big part of it.
Your friend is being pressurised to get married. How do you support her? By encouraging her to accept her fate? Or by motivating her to speak her mind and take a firm stand?