Dear Padosis, Please Stop Saying These 8 Annoying Things To Me

Who according to you make annoying neighbours? Let me guess. Maybe someone who plays loud music or shows up at your doorstep every other day with a bowl in hand asking for some sugar or milk. No, no, not those. The ones who don't come over, get to know you but make all the presumptions about who you are, what you do and what you must do.

Dear annoying neighbours, I'm done with hearing these 8 things from you

1. Who was that guy with you?

Dear padosis, I know the person I am hanging out with and so do my parents. You need not act like a spy gathering information from me and thinking of conveying it to them or to the rest of the neighbourhood. Why don't you rather pay attention to your children and focus on their friend circle? Actually, even if you do share it with the town, I don't care. But just so you know, that question - who was that guy with you - is none of your business.

2. What are your career plans?

You will get to know when I have a job. Give me some time to figure things out and stop judging me for being unsure about my aim. Not everyone has a clarity in life immediately after completing their education. Thanks for asking though, I'll now have to think about it.

3. Why do you fight so much with your parents?

Isn't that my personal matter? Just because I have a few arguments with my parents does not mean I don't love them and let's be honest, even your children fight with you but I never come to you asking for a clarification. In fact in our home, we agree to disagree. Does that happen in yours?

4. Your dog barks a lot

My annoying neighbours don't realise that it will be a bigger problem the day he stops barking at strangers. It's because he keeps us aware of suspicious people trying to intrude our privacy that we are all safe. Moreover, isn't it obvious for a dog to bark?

5. You should watch what you're wearing

Annoying neighbours have a habit of drawing a character analysis based on our clothes. I'm pretty aware of what I am wearing and I know what I am comfortable in. Let me choose what my body loves and stop passing weird glances at me.

6. Your friend got married. It's your turn next.

That was her choice. It does not necessarily have to be my choice as well. All of us have different properties and I have mine sorted. I know I don't wanna become a wife at 24 and mother at 26. When will brown people stop glorifying marriage and start giving importance to consent?

7. Why don't you visit us more often?

The answer is simple. If I visit you more often, I'll have to deal with all the rubbish you say more frequently and I cannot bear to do that. I would prefer staying at home and looking after my mental health instead of visiting you for some useless gossip.

8. Be careful about making friends.

I am already careful about mingling with people and probably don't need your advice. Do you even understand how annoying it is to be constantly questioned about choices? I might not be the best judge of people but at least I am sure of those love and respect me. Anyway, thanks for showing your concern.