What Is Delusionship? All We Know About The New Dating Trend

Delusionship is when a person strongly believes that their partner is equally invested in the relationship as they are while in reality the partner has a different perception of the relationship.

Kalyani Ganesan
Aug 07, 2023 14:30 IST
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As we are just familiarising ourselves with the terms situationship and beige flags, a new dating trend has emerged this year called 'delusionship.' A relationship where one person has a drastically different perception of the relationship than the other is termed a delusionship.

According to Merriam-Webster, delusion is defined as a "persistent false belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary." So in this case, essentially, one person in the relationship is being delusional about the relationship without really understanding or realising what the relationship means to the other person.

In such relationships, the person who is 'delusional' strongly believes that their partner is equally invested in the relationship as they are. However, the truth is that the other person is not.

What Is A Delusionship


While the person who is 'delusional' may be envisioning long walks on the beach, romantic dinners, movie dates, surprises, weekend getaways, and even a destination wedding followed by a happily-ever-after life, their partner might not have the same ideas about the relationship. In that case, they are engaged in a delusionship.

The term has been used largely in recent times. The new dating trend has received over 16 million views on TikTok.

Despite sounding wicked, delusions are becoming increasingly common these days. The person who is being delusional is at risk here. They often fantasise about a steadfast relationship with their potential partner without really knowing much about them.


For instance, in a typical arranged marriage setup, either the potential bride or the groom might begin envisioning a future with the other person by just seeing their profile on a matrimonial app or just over one meeting. However, the probability that the partner reciprocates the feeling is uncertain. In that case, the delusional person will end up getting hurt.

It can get very hard for the person when reality hits and they realise that it’s only they who’s been idealising the relationship, and the partner never had the same idea about them. People who are looking for solid relationships should stay away from idealising or fantasising about establishing connections with someone.

If you’re looking for a committed and steadfastly reliable relationship, then you’ve got to be extremely careful before getting attached to a potential partner. You need to be one hundred percent sure that the partner is also equally invested in the relationship and is looking to commit themselves to a long-term relationship.


If you find yourself in a delusionship, you’ve got to analyse yourself, your partner, and the relationship. If the efforts are solely from your side, then you should convince yourself to get out of that relationship. If you’re unsure of what your partner’s idea of the relationship is, the best thing to do is talk it out instead of wasting time and causing potential harm to your emotional well-being.

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