A New-York based photographer has accused comedian Aziz Ansari of sexual misconduct during a date. The anonymous woman said she met Ansari at an Emmys after party in Los Angeles, and they went on a date.

The woman recounts how she felt pressured by him, and that it was a case of sexual misconduct. Ansari responded, saying he thought the behaviour they engaged in was completely consensual

The case makes one think of the recently viral story ‘Cat Person’ which led a woman to engage in bad sex due to pressure and male entitlement. So is the Ansari incident another case of bad sex which blurs the line, or is it a clear cut case of #MeToo?

Here is what the woman said happened:

She said they had a date in Manhattan after which they went to Ansari’s apartment, where things escalated quickly.

“In a second, his hand was on my breast,” the woman said. “It was 30 minutes of me getting up and moving and him following and sticking his fingers down my throat again. It was really repetitive. It felt like a fucking game … most of my discomfort was expressed in me pulling away and mumbling. I know that my hand stopped moving at some points, I stopped moving my lips and turned cold.” 

Misreading cues?

The woman also talks about how she felt pressured to perform oral sex on him. She said she was really uncomfortable. Finally she left. The next day, Ansari texted her thanking her for the fun evening. She responded, “You ignored clear non-verbal cues; you kept going with advances.”

He then apologised to her, saying, “Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.”

Ansari responds to allegations:

After the woman spoke about the incident in the media, Ansari said he thought the encounter was consensual.

He made a statement to People about the incident. “The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed OK’, upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable. It was true that everything did seem OK to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned. I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said.”

“I continue to support the movement that is happening in our culture … It is necessary and long overdue.”

So is this a case of #MeToo?

Many people think the incident isn’t #MeToo but it is a demonstration of how rape culture works, and how men feel entitled to sex. 

While nobody is saying what Aziz Ansari did is illegal, people are saying his behaviour demonstrates how a ‘no’ doesn’t always have to be verbal. Men should be able to read the cues.

Others point out the grey areas in the case, and how looking at it in a binary way is counterproductive:

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Picture Credit: Ny Daily news

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