While it’s common in Western countries for children to move out of their parent’s home after 18, it’s still not a normalised concept in India. Unless an 18-year-old manages to convince their parents to send them to study in a different city or country, moving out of the house is a strict no in typical Indian households. But if children are raised within a comfort zone and never allowed to explore the world on their own, how will they develop survival skills?
A Twitter user who goes by the name Shubh raised a question on the microblogging platform asking how many people would agree to the opinion that they should move out of their parent’s house in their early 20s if they wanted to grow without restriction.
The post shared on May 8 has received 122K views and over 2K likes. Twitter users posted various opinions in the comments section. While some said they were living away from their parents and that life wasn’t easy, others said that it would be a great learning experience.
Here’s what five women in their late 20s feel about moving out of their parents’ home.
Kids Moving Out Of Parents Home
29-year-old Niveditha Sreenivasan, who lived away from home before getting married, said, “It is a very good learning prospect to move out of your parent’s home in your 20s to learn how to navigate daily life on your own. Living on your own will help you understand the value of money, learn budgeting and household chores, improve your communication skills, develop interpersonal relationships, etc.”
She further added that the most important thing was that if you make a mistake, you learn from it, and it becomes a life lesson. If you take a risk and get something big done, it’ll be your own achievement! It’ll keep you grounded and help you grow as an individual. “That being said, it shouldn’t be a mandatory situation. If both the parents and children are comfortable with the decision, then it would be very beneficial,” she added.
“Yes, I believe that it’s good for children to move out in their 20s! It gives us scope to grow as individuals, make our own mistakes, and build a life. At home, even though our parents teach us or may give us the space we need, we may end up being cocooned. True independence and exploration can occur when we’re on our own. For those who can’t afford it due to familiar circumstances, I’d suggest at least a few months of staying in a hostel or a city away from home to plan a life for themselves,” said Deeptha Sreedhar, 29.
Sabna, 28, said that children moving out of their parent’s home in their early or mid-20s would help them know what life is and how to survive without any intervention or support from parents. “The longer you stay, you get to know the reality and eventually experience a lot, rather than staying with them and doing the same old routine process. It will help you make decisions on your own, think clearly, and discover what you really want to do with your life. Of course, mistakes might happen, but you’ll learn a life lesson from them instead of putting the blame on someone else,” she added.
29-year-old Sruthi, who has lived with her parents her entire life, said, “Since I was never allowed to move out my whole life, I know nothing about the real world. No rent, no grocery bills, no power bills—it’s all taken care of. I spend the money I make on things that aren’t basic necessities. If I get married someday, they’re going to expect me to leave the house. And guess what? I have no idea how the real world works. I’m afraid I’d end up having to rely on my partner for basic expenses. If they were okay with me moving out once I was old enough, I feel I might’ve been a little more responsible than I am now.
Anne Jacob, 29, who has chosen to stay with her parents, said that both are good options, but it depended on various factors such as an individual’s choice, her parents’ health condition, family situations, etc. “In my case, both my parents were old, and being an only child made me choose them, although I had many opportunities to move out. Also, as they grew older, their health and various other factors made them dependent. So, it was the best decision for me personally to always be there for them,” she said.
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Feature Image: Representational Image of Alia Bhatt from a still from Dear Zindagi. Credits: IBN Times India