College days are one of the most important and precious days of your life. Here you learn new things, meet new people, experience different things etc, every day is a blast. From taking care of drunk friends to 3 am long drives, everything is new and exciting. Spending three to five years together brings you really close. Covering up for each other on night outs and class bunks to celebrating breakups together, college friendships are totally different and absolutely fun.
This Friendship Day, we spoke to some college students to know what they learned about friendship in college.
Friendships can grow strong in a short time too
We believe the person with whom we have spent most of our time will understand us better. But that’s not always true. Friendship can grow strong even in a short span of time. Your level of understanding each other does not depend on a calendar. “After leaving my school where I spent 12 years of my life, I thought I won’t be able to make true friends here. But the opposite happened. I met some really cool folks, who understand me the best and are there for me in every crisis,” said Samridhi Khandelwal from Kamla Nehru College. Further adding to this she said, “You just have to meet the right set of persons. The time period can never define your bond.”
Never leave you to do stupid things…Alone!
Friendship is all about doing crazy stuff together. Exploring new things is cool, but doing that together with your friends just takes fun to the next level. They provide you with the confidence and support to test your limits and do something crazy which you would probably never try alone. “I never knew I would love travelling so much. When I came to college my friends made a pact that at the end of every semester we will go on a trip. Since then we have been to Ajmer, Jaipur, Jodhpur etc and I discovered my hidden love for travelling,” said Ankita Maurya from Regional Institute of Education Rajasthan. Also adding further she said, “Their friendship taught me that I’m not alone, these morons will always be there for me.”
They are your best therapist
I still remember when I was going through a breakup during my first year, I felt very lonely. But my friends never left me alone, not for a moment. Without saying anything, they took me to my favourite food court, went to Sarojini for crazy shopping & every time set me up on blind dates. – Falak Naaz
We all are grown up, it becomes harder to cry and crib about every little thing that bothers us. We often end up suppressing our frustration and heartaches, which turns us toxic and can affect our mental well-being. But your college mates definitely understand your moods, even before you say anything. “Sometimes it’s too much to take and you need to have a breath of fresh air. But one session of gossip is enough. It’s like your punching bag where your friends provide you with a room to relieve yourself, without any judgement, just there for you” said Shweta Yadav from Government Medical College Chanderpur.
“I still remember when I was going through a breakup during my first year, I felt very lonely. But my friends never left me alone, not for a moment. Without saying anything, they took me to my favourite food court, went to Sarojini for crazy shopping & every time set me up on blind dates (which was actually frustrating), but I realised, sometimes they understand you better than anyone else. That’s what friendship means, understanding in silence”, said Falak Naaz from Dronacharya Government College.
There’s no boundary
There are no boundaries or no limits when it comes to friendship. People out there, holding your hands without any judgements and comments. Supporting you throughout your college journey. You can rely on them with anything. Sharing each other’s stuff, makes you feel like you are still living with your siblings. “I still don’t know where my favourite pink top is. Here in PG, we share all our items. It’s like a big wardrobe. We don’t even take each other’s permission for that and I think that is friendship where you are too comfortable with each other that you don’t have to explain anything”, said Udisha Srivastav from Kamla Nehru College. “Have you heard that Airtel jingle? ‘Jo Tera Hai Wo Mera Hai, Jo Mera Hai Wo Tera‘. That’s what friendship means” she said.
I still don’t know where my favourite pink top is. Here in PG, we share all our items. It’s like a big wardrobe. We don’t even take each other’s permission for that. – Udisha Srivastav
Your extended family
Living far away from your house for your education is not easy. The level of homesickness becomes really high and sometimes you can’t even visit your parents during festivals. That time these friends become your extended family. “I remember when I came to Bhopal I really felt homesick because it was my first time when I was away from my family. I got pneumonia, but as semester exams were near I couldn’t go home. My friends came to my PG and stayed up all night with me. One of my friend Ria also made porridge for me which was actually half cooked. But just by seeing their concern and care for me, I felt much better. I realised friends can be your extended family in a strange city. That was a pretty awesome night”, said Deepika Kumari from Regional Institute of Education, Bhopal.
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Divya Tripathi is an intern with SheThePeople.TV