Invisible Battles: Mental Health Support Is the Missing Link in Disability Inclusion

When we hear the word disability, words like unfortunate, disempowerment, pity, and frail come to mind. Why? Because these are the situations and emotions we have been conditioned to associate with this.  

How do we disassociate?

Do not use the word disability

This word has a negative connotation. Just like every word that uses the prefix ‘dis’, a certain lowliness and deprivation come with it.  Using the term different ability is more politically correct and does not undermine anyone.

Be a buddy

Everyone knows how to be a buddy.  But when it comes to approaching someone different or someone you are not familiar with, you get back. Let me remind you:

Be there. Consistency builds trust. Understand, be compassionate and don’t belittle. Everyone has limitations; don’t discriminate. Don’t make judgments based on assumptions. You lift up. Being a buddy means you support each other for growth.

Support

Support is something most of us shy away from. Asking for it makes us weak, and giving… well, who has time these days? However, it is the one thing we all need. 

Some need it more than others, but it is a cornerstone of our lives. When we offer support to another, not only do we fulfil the Y component in buddy, but we form a tangible lifeline with someone who is precious.  

Although this may be overlooked as support is an element that keeps the structure intact, its necessity can never be dismissed.

Though support comes in all shapes and sizes, the most rudimentary and essential support we all need as social animals is mental and emotional support.

This can be offered in many ways, first and foremost, by being a buddy. Being there for someone is more than just a physical act; it requires a certain commitment, a certain determination.

When we can truly become buddies with those with different abilities, we will notice that the multiple barriers they face will be reduced. 

Supporting someone regardless of baggage, circumstances, or assumptions is giving that person a lifeline and strength that helps them break through other barriers.

Authored by Alma Chopra, motivational speaker, disability rights activist and life coach. 
Views expressed are the author's own.