All Hail The Inconvenient Woman, She’s Here to Stay

SHE: shining, happening, evolving

SHE: mysterious, magical, mesmerizing 

SHE: shaman, healer, emancipator

SHE: breaker of the generational curse

S.H.E: The Inconvenient Woman!

“So, if you’re offended, and viewing at home 

I’m here to say that I’m not sorry 

For being… inconvenient. 

You were not put on this earth to make everybody else’s life easier.

So please, be inconvenient."

Circa 2018: You’ve got to hand it to Halsey! She knew way back that the time for the “brutally honest, outspoken and fearless/ Goes with their gut, never favours appearance” girl is finally here “cause who has time for vanity with opponents to extinguish?”

Why you shouldn't bother The Inconvenient Woman

Today, it’s not just about the way OTHERS view her, it’s more about how SHE views herself amid all the discrimination, double standards, doubts and disruptions. She’s Alicia Keys’ girl on fire “both feet on the ground/ And she's burnin' it down/ she got her head in the clouds/ And she's not backin' down!”



Basic is no longer her option. If you think she’s “difficult” better learn to deal with it for she is in no mood to give up even a nano bit of her hard-earned powers. “She might need a coffee, she might need a good cry, she might need a day in bed; But she will always come back stronger.” 

Finally, she is the manifestation of the person she always wanted to be. No more self-sabotaging “could haves and should haves.” No more rejection trauma. No more people pleasing. No more shrinking. No more enduring pain. No more fearing fear. She’s moved on in a completely new trajectory. 

The elemental healing and transformation have multiplied her self-worth manifold. Solo is her preferred pronoun if it comes to that, for she walks her own path, you better catch up. She is BAE and her validation comes form within. It’s her “more” that Matthew McConaughey talks about. More respect, more ambition, more assertion!

She owns her “NOs” and knows “her own.” She gathers her rainbows and weathers her storms. She channelizes her chaos and claims her confidence. She prioritizes her pauses and pursues possibilities. 

She is Mahasweta Devi’s “Why Why Girl” Manya. Even though she may live in a little village and “cannot go to school because she has to tend the goats, collect firewood, fetch water, she is full of so many questions that the postmaster calls her the why why girl.” Her mind thrives on curiosity! 

She is Shelly Anand’s Laxmi, “the young girl” on her “journey to accept her body hair and celebrate her heritage.” 

In touch with her innermost self, her positive ripple effect is overarching covering all seven key Zen zones: mental, physical, emotional, sensory, creative, social and spiritual. 

Standing tall in her own powers, she’s capable of “butterfly hugging” her stresses away for she is a believer. Strength emanates form her very core as the cycle of genetic mutation comes a full circle. 

She is Michelle Obama proclaiming proudly “if I had worried about who liked me and who thought I was cute when I was your age I wouldn’t be married to the President of the United States.” 

She is Virginnia Woolf with a “desire for something beyond the daily life.” She is no longer hard on herself but is crazy about upgrading herself every single day. Her survivor’s remorse no longer gaslights her preventing her from taking calculated risks in her growth journey. That’s why she is attracting attention wherever she goes without even trying. She is the wonder wall for the energy drainers, the fake complimentors, the pessimists, the victims, the manipulators and the criticizers. 

She is open to possibilities, she bends rules, she is unstoppable. She sets boundaries, stand up for her beliefs, learns from her mistakes. Her comeback era is here to stay. Make way!

Her intuition guides her to success, but she’s more committed to inner peace than ever before. In no mood to “prove” herself to anyone anymore she’s bulletproof - drunk on dopamine, she is her own biggest stan. 

Fitting in is a downgrade because she’s learnt to dance with her demons allowing herself like wild flowers “to grow in all the places people thought she never would.”

She is a hot mess of happiness as she follows her heart. It’s her Renee Bauer talks about in She Who Wins, no longer a woman who is stuck -- “stuck in a job she despises, marriage that is joyless, role she didn't ask for, and even in her own head.” She’s realised uncomfortable truths and grabbed the opportunity to “catapult her life from flatlined to fabulous” by doing the hard thing.

“No risk, No story” is her mantra. And in answer to J Krishnamurthy’s “What Are You Doing With Your Life?” she takes full responsibility for her choices even when life hurts and shocks abound. 

Her being itself is a canon event and if all the world’s a stage, she’s the EGOT nominee. Of course she’s allowed to be high maintenance then, because she’s the one maintaining it.

Thinking in 5th dimension consciousness, she is a work in progress striving continuously to be the “best version of herself.” If that requires The Art of Being Alone sometimes, she is Frida Kahlo. Like Renuka Gavrani she knows how to savour “alone time to build her dream life.”



Her Unthethered Soul like Michaela Singer pictures, “draws upon every aspect of her own life to take an honest look at herself in the most natural, intuitive manner. And once refocused, she has the ability to find herself, to free herself.”

Her vibe is iron-clad non-negotiable for she has learnt the hard way that her real flex is “not becoming like the people who hurt her.” Happiness is a choice she makes every morning. 

She’s not the type of woman to “settle down” for anything now as she is under no obligation to make sense to anyone. 

Come to think of it, “it actually doesn’t take much to be considered a difficult woman,” smiles Jane Goodall, “that’s why there are so many of us.”

So many who laugh a little loud.

So many who dare to lead.

So many who say it like it is. 

So many who are S.H.E.

The Inconvenient Woman! 

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