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Many of the things that define us as ‘Indian’ be it Bollywood, or arranged marriages, or caste or our festivals etc – all of these things often have unequal gender relations weaved through them
CBSE handbook details guidelines for students as well as parents, listing the dos and donts and activities to understand the sensitivity of cyber safety, revenge porn and other issues.
Dating, intimacy and relationships, there’s nothing wrong in having discussions on them. But should that discussion happen from a single gender’s perspective?
I grew up confused by the erotic values of mango juice (“Aam Sutra”), and am now a grown woman confused by the seductive qualities of vanilla ice cream (“Shamelessly Vanilla – Put anything on me”).
Instances of objectifying women are not rare but when a woman is held accused there is a volley of fury in the society, putting the blame entirely on the heads of the ‘feminists.’
The National Commission For Protection Of Child Rights (NCPCR) took cognizance of the matter, representing the boy’s family and directed that the allegations made by the complainant should be looked into.
The urgency in passing the social media verdicts in the current Snapchat incident highlights how uncomfortable women can make men the moment they raise questions on their privileges.
After investigation, the Delhi Police has found that the Snapchat conversation has no connection with the Bois locker room and a girl faked her name as Siddharth only to check the values and character of the boy she was chatting with.
Women face rape threats, get asked for nudes, shamed for their bodies, served lewd comments on such a regular basis that it has become a part and parcel of our online lives.
Are you having these conversations with your sons? If you outright reject the influencers in their lives, there are chances of they may turn more secretive.
The question is not what can be done to stop Bois Locker Room conversations among the teenagers but how are we addressing the root of the problem.
How do we know the morality of safe expression of sexuality when we don’t discuss sexuality with our children. When will they know the difference between attraction and abuse?