Ahead of Valentine’s Day Abha Bakaya in her column Wonder Woman talks about how “The One” who is perfect for you needs to be someone who loves you because of all the strange things you are. It seems like no matter how busy you keep yourself, where you travel or how much you succeed in […]

Is it true that men tend to avoid partners who can compete with them intellectually and instead look for someone who can bolster their egos? Abha Bakaya talks about how not only they but we as women continue to look at men as hunters and providers… Recently, a male friend of mine complaining about not […]

Theresa May, the British Prime Minister, was recently under fire for saying there are jobs for ‘boys and girls’. Probably not the most well thought out comment on a public platform. Nevertheless…sometimes it’s not about gender but simply what you’re more attuned to and what you’re able to get done without getting a headache. If […]

We all talk a lot about choice and one of the biggest choices we make is whether to have kids and when to have kids. These days many women delay having children because they are focussed on their careers, worried about the effects childbirth will have on their body, or simply because its not a […]

At the Women Writers Fest in Mumbai, a pro-career and working women discussion put the big question about the monies. Who is the bread earner? Women need to be prepared to stay financially smart and independent. Are they doing enough? Do they need a stash of their own? How can they keep themselves financially separate […]

I have always been aware of all that it takes for immaculate personal grooming. At times a little paranoid about it. Having been an awkward teen I had my own painful induction into what it takes to look good – epilators, glasses, hair straightening, braces – the works. The thing is you would think it […]

A close friend of mine… let me just call her my little pixie… said she was going to tell the partners at the young startup she works at that they needed to institutionalise an optional day off for women on the first day of their cycle. After working in the system for 15 years, and […]

Most often, you get judged for the way you are dressed even before you speak or make your presentation. This is something most people don’t think about enough. Or think about in a very safe, fearful way. Don’t show too much cleavage, keep your skirt below your knee, wear a jacket even if it’s a […]

I’m a different sort of feminist. I’m the kind that likes a man to be a gentleman but also the kind that’s fiercely independent. I’m happy to let a man buy me dinner but that in no way implies I can’t actually pay for it myself. While I love my career and thrive on success, […]