Kyun Bhai, Mard Ko Dard Kyun Nahin Hota?

Nobody talks about it enough but if a man likes to dress up a certain way or emote sensitivity, he is often called out for "being a girl." Body shaming is not confined to women, men equally go through body image issues because they're expected to "man up." Why?

“Ye kya ladkiyo ki tarah ro raha hai.. Be a man," “Hatho mein chudiyaan pehni hain kya?" Pata nahi kitni generations se ye narrative chalta aarha hai ki “mard ko dard nhi hota” aur “mard kabhi roya thodi krte hain” Kyun bhai?

Ye mard banne ka itna pressure kyun hai?

With movies like Animal, Kabir Singh amongst others, the concept of toxic masculinity, alpha male is widely spread in our society to date. 

The popular characteristics of these men include - toughness, anti femininity and the pursuit of power.  

Men grew up in the mindset to be, “strong, tough, make decisions, lead, provide, be assertive". 

Yes, women have their own struggles, but to think that men have it easy is clearly a myth. You think expectations to look a certain way are only for women? Well, that’s not the case. 

Nobody talks about it enough but if a guy likes wearing makeup, or dresses a certain way, they are often looked down upon. Body shaming is not only for women, men equally go through body image issues as they are expected to be tall, tough, fair and handsome. 

Aur ye mard banne ka pressure bachpan se hi shuru ho jata hai. School mein sports aur outdoor activities mein interest hona bohot important hai, “ladko” vala career path select karna for eg - engineering. Kyuki indoor activities aur arts jaisi fields sirf ladkio ke liye bani hain. Nobody cares about their interests and what they actually want to do in life.  

The entire ‘be a man’ philosophy has taken away the choice of failing with grace from men

Most of their life has been on auto-pilot and the moment you try to take it into their your own hands, society comes crashing down on you with their disappointment. But how does one overturn decades worth of social conditioning that taught them to not cry or to start worrying about feeding their entire family when they are merely teenagers? 

Things are slowly changing these days, even girls prefer sensitive guys, who can be vulnerable and show their emotions, over someone who blindly follows toxic masculinity.  

It is finally time to realise that the manliest thing to do is to be emotional, caring, self-loving, and accepting of help.